I’m Nahid, an Author and somatic Movement Educator, known as the “nervous system whisperer.” I run an online clinic where I help clients with chronic stress, anxiety, burnout, and trauma issues with The Soothe Programme, a 12 week course of tailored private sessions to rewire your brain through movement. I also run workshops and retreats – the next London day retreat is on March 23rd. Come and join us!
In Succession, the brilliant series about a dysfunctional media family dynasty, there is a scene in the office where Shiv, the daughter, gets her PA to schedule in time in her working day to cry for her dead father. When she is done, she wipes her nose and carries on with her day. I feel that is me these days. I make time to feel all of the horror that we are witnessing and do something physical to let it to move through me. I have rules around when I catch up with the news from trusted sources, I give myself time for a cathartic cry, I write letters, sign petitions and any other useful action and then I leave it be.
Crying often gets a bad rap. We might associate it with weakness or negativity, but the truth is, tears are a natural and healthy part of the human experience. In fact, research suggests that crying can actually be beneficial for both our physical and mental well-being.
Here's why you shouldn't shy away from letting those tears flow:
1. Emotional Release and Self-Soothing: Crying can act as a natural release valve for pent-up emotions, whether it's sadness, grief, anger, or even frustration. Studies have shown that emotional tears contain higher levels of stress hormones compared to other types of tears. By allowing ourselves to cry, we release these built-up chemicals, promoting a sense of calm and emotional regulation.
2. Pain Relief: Believe it or not, crying can actually help to dull pain. Research suggests that emotional tears trigger the release of endorphins and oxytocin, often referred to as "feel-good" chemicals. These chemicals not only elevate mood but also have pain-relieving properties, similar to natural painkillers produced by the body.
3. Strengthening Social Bonds: While crying can feel isolating, it can actually strengthen social bonds. Studies have shown that tears can trigger empathy and compassion in others, leading to feelings of support and connection. So, don't be afraid to reach out to a loved one for comfort during a difficult time.
Making Space for Tears:
It's important to create a safe and supportive environment to allow yourself to cry freely. Here are some tips:
Find a quiet and private space where you won't be interrupted.
Talk to a trusted friend or family member about what you're going through.
Engage in activities that help you relax, such as listening to calming music or going for a walk.
Remember, what is happening is horrific so crying is a normal and healthy human response. By embracing your tears and allowing yourself to express your emotions openly, you can take a step towards emotional well-being, healing and your tears can move you to take collective action.
What’s going on
I’m just back from a press event held at Bamford in Brompton Cross for my book, Soothe the book your nervous system has been longing for. I am so ready for the adventures ahead.*
The Soothe Retreats - there are two rooms left for the May weekend, more details here.
The Soothe Group Programme is a self-paced course for anyone wanting to shift through their patterns of chronic stress or anxiety. This course will launch in April, please let me know if you would like to receive the details and an early bird offer.
For paid subscribers, please find below a promo code to use against any class in my on demand library, sometimes you need a longer practice.
Stay human,
Nahid x